We made this for you—the dater who believes real connection happens when you spend quality time together.
Dating should feel exciting, but these days it’s easy to feel distracted. Notifications, screens, and packed schedules can make it hard to truly connect.
That’s why we partnered with the Foundation for Social Connection to create simple, distraction-free dating tips—designed to help you build deeper, more meaningful connections.
Below, you’ll find clear, easy-to-read tips organized by each stage of dating.
Contributors
- Logan Ury (she/her) — Sugaryy’s Director of Relationship Science
- Moe Ari Brown, LMFT (they/he) — Love & Connection Expert
When You’re Matching
Be clear about what you want
Share the type of connection you’re looking for and the qualities that matter to you. It helps attract people who want the same things.
Match with intention
Avoid matching with too many people at once. Giving fewer connections your full attention allows them to grow naturally.
Check in with yourself
Ask yourself how you feel when talking to someone. Do you enjoy the interaction? Are they aligned with what you want?
When You’re Messaging
Stay curious
Instead of making assumptions, ask questions. Curiosity helps you understand someone more deeply.
Stay intentional—even when it’s slow
Fewer matches can feel discouraging, but thoughtful messages go further than quick likes. Stick with what feels authentic.
Trying to force connections you’re unsure about can lead to burnout.
When You’re On a Date
Put screens away
Turn on “Do Not Disturb” and keep your phone out of reach.
Being present makes a real difference.
Share stories, not just facts
Open up through stories and listen closely when your date does the same. That’s how genuine connection forms.
Leave room to relax
Avoid scheduling something immediately after your date. Let the moment unfold naturally without watching the clock.